What’s Possible Today?

We must take the leap. It really is up to us.

Must Be This Tall To Ride

Marital status aside—my life looks a lot like I thought it would when I was growing up.

I live in the Ohio suburbs. I’m middle class. My child goes to Catholic school now, just like I did.

When I was a kid, I didn’t really know what marriage would look and feel like, so I didn’t spend a great deal of time imagining it.

When I was a kid, I didn’t really understand what separates the financial winners from the losers. And I still don’t. I often feel like a complete failure. But compared to many people (the statistical majority, actually), I’m really doing quite well.

I hold myself to pretty high standards. And maybe that’s not psychologically healthy. But I don’t know how to quit. And I’m not sure I’d want to if I did.

Ask me why I’m 35 and have never been promoted at any of my…

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Hard work vs. talent

We do often forget that the key is hard work and dedication.

Who just needs a good talk?

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motivation, talk, thistimeisthecharm, video, youtube

I wasn’t actually expecting any followers so I was quite surprised when I saw you guys. I wondered why you would want to follow me and then I realised that unintentionally, I created like this motivation/ getting back on track kind of blog. So let me make your follow worthwhile.

I found this dude on YouTube and he simply keeps it straight and gets to the point. He doesn’t do the whole “cheerleading” you about how awesome you are but really just puts a clear perspective forward for you to evaluate your life yourself.

do check out his stuff :

New eating plan that worked for me (day 12)

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diet, eating, food, health, healthy, plan, temptation

I always start the day with determination to eat “healthily” but that just never works. I’ve tried it so many times but I always fail. So what do I do? I made a new plan and it actually helped me improve my eating habits and that is what I’m going to share here. I realised that the main reason I fail is because I always give into temptation when the time comes. I love food but I was eating a lot, until my belly felt like it was going to explode and the food wasn’t exactly healthy either. I desperately needed a change. My new plan was to simply plan. Yes, I decided to simply plan my meals for the next day and stick to that plan. That way I don’t allow my mind to trick me with things like ‘oh, eat more, you can have a healthier dinner to balance this unhealthy meal’ etc etc.
It sounds really simple but I did face some problems. Firstly, I started too extreme; I planned every meal and snack to the dot. This didn’t work because I realised it was too much of a change and that “giving into temptation” thing was still present. I gave in when I saw that fried chicken.
That failed because I was asking for too much from myself and the transition was quite a big step. I decided to make it easier. I decided to make a plan but everyday, allow for 1 unexpected meal. This means that I will allow myself to give into temptation. I won’t stop myself if they cook something really yummy at home. I was allowed to have 1 unplanned meal. I wasn’t as restricted and everything just felt easier.
This really helped me and worked for me but that does not mean it will work for everyone but it’s worth a try. I just thought I should share it and would love to hear what you have to say.

Update- Day 3 of waking up on time

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alarm, awake, clock, lazy, mind, morning, teeth, time, tired, voice, wake up, yawn

-on day 3 I had set the alarm and I got up, walked over to the alarm clock and turned it off. My goal is to just walk out to the bathroom as soon as I can and do that without looking back at my warn, comfy bed. I could have walked out, I was so close to the door and I was about to, but a voice in my head said ‘you slept a bit late last night, go back to bed, you don’t need to wake up now’ and it felt like that voice just made more sense, the point was simply incontrovertible! So I went back to bed and woke up really late and that just killed off my plans for the day.
Well done.
Goal for next time- ask that voice to come brush his teeth with you because everything coming out of that mouth is doodoo.

Won’t happen till you start

Couldn’t agree more with the person who came up with this.

I added it to my inspiration wall (although I may have to rethink those flowers)

 

It’s because you allow it.

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achieve, aim, determination, effort, Goals, hard work, motivation, results, success, Targets

Today is day 5 and although I started the day well, I really am not in my best form at the moment. Making plans is easy but sticking to them is hard. This however can be done with discipline and effort. So I guess it’s just about me making that extra push.

However, another thing that seems to be out of my control is my own mind. I want to improve, I want to do this and that but without my mind focused, I am nothing. I seem to keep babying myself and try to make myself feel better by saying things like ‘everyone goes at their own pace’ or some bullshit like that. Yes, everyone has a way they work but I really seemed to be doing nothing. To really get a good feel of my point, I can only ask you to think back to perhaps a month or 2 months ago or to your birthday or back to New Years. Think about the goals you had set yourself and write them down. Now mark whether or not you achieved them. You may had achieved most of them, in which case well done and please share your tips! However, some of you may only have like 1 tick out of 5 or none at all. Now that’s a crap feeling. Why haven’t I achieved them and why am I not working on them now? Ask yourself these questions. This is exactly what I am asking myslelf.
The answer is because I allow myself. I tell myself, ‘it’s okay, it’s not that important’ or ‘you have other things to worry about’ or ‘just be happy with the fact that you tried’. Nonsense.

I really admire people who make something of themselves and most of the time they inspire me and I take them as a source of motivation but on days like today, I feel depressed when I see exactly what I want but don’t have. And I can blame no one but myself for not making the best out of everyday. So what do you do? Baby yourself more? Tell yourself you will start tomorrow? No. Start now. Start by setting yourself that goal and keep focused on the target. DO NOT ALLOW YOUR MIND TO BABY YOU. KEEP AT IT.
MIND: FOCUS+GOALS = RESULTS

Key tip: not too many goals (start with max 2)
And keep them short term (which could all be leading to a long term one) so you are constantly evaluating your progress.

Day 1- getting along

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clash, conflicts, friends, get along, getting along, getting through life, how, people

How do you get along with your clash?

• Well, up to now I’ve gathered that the first thing to do is to keep yourself calm. I am one with a bad temper and the shouting just comes out without any thought! This only makes things worse for everyone. So yes, keep a cool head- it’s a lot to ask for, especially when the other person is off their head but trust me, it is the best thing to do.
• Secondly, I would say that you need to just keep in your head that everyone is different. Accept that you have different preferences, beliefs and priorities. I know this sounds like common sense but I often find myself getting frustrated because I forget this basic thing. Only by having this understanding can you start getting along and it is only then that you can expect to move forward. It’s this idea of putting behind the differences and also learning when to just let it go.
• I fully believe that you should hear the other side out, no matter how sure you are of yourself. I am always up for a debate but sometimes you need to know when you’re just not making any sense any more. You need to have the courage to admit you’re wrong- it happens.
• This one I’m still working on- I always thought that you should discuss everything just so there is no little grey cloud in between people. However, only recently I’ve sort of changed my mind. I would still encourage people to not keep anything that’s annoying them to themselves, especially if it’s prohibiting you from going about life in the way you want. However, those tiny things that annoy you and those insignificant little things that you notice but isn’t really that important, I don’t know if you need to bring them along at the table when things are going just fine. What my point is- choose your words carefully and just avoid topics that have little significance in the big picture. Don’t you think this will be best, especially when you’re trying to get along with someone? This again links back to the idea of just letting some things go.
• Lastly, I would like to end on something that I’ve seen works every time! This is something my brother does. You know those times when your parents/family make those small little, slightly weird and annoying comments that just ticks you off? I always get reallllyyyy annoyed and it even turns into little arguments at times with the whole “Omd, you guys don’t understand anything!..blah blah..” but my brother, he handles them so well. His secret is to turn it into a joke. He takes the comment as a joke and just laughs at it and sometimes even carries on the joke himself or throws another joke at them until they move on to talking about something else. No arguments, everyone gets along and we even get people laughing. Try it!

Day 1- healthy living

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app, diet, exercise, food, healthy

• Diet- okay so I’m a little chubby, meaning that when I sit, there is a little pooch and I can only wear some tight clothes without feeling overly self-conscious. I do go my gym at least 3 times a week but I only do an hour each time and I know I’m not pushing myself to my limit. Also my diet was terrible.
• My new aim is to do 2 hours every time I go and really push myself to the limit.  I have yet to make a new regular schedule for the gym classes I want to be attending every week. The food part has been improving because i am eating healthier but my portions size is too big and I always overeat. I am full but I still continue eating. it is the most irrational ting ever! My aim is to work on reducing portion size. Any tips?
• Also downloaded this new app called: Diet Tracker. Unlike other apps, this is sooooo simple. You just take a picture (you don’t have to add a pic though) and write down the food you ate. It’s basically a journal that allows you to keep track of what you eat.

Day 1- SATs revision

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critical thinking, revision, SATs, timetable, vocabulary, words

• Did SATs practice for one hour with a break in between. I was quite slow but that’s okay because today is day 1 and I wasn’t sure how my revision was going to work. What I do know now is that I am going to start each revision session with a review of previous sessions. Damn, I forgot to do ‘word of the day’ but I will make one right now.
• My WOTD is FRUGAL(adj)- it means being careful when using money or food; I’m working towards developing a frugal lifestyle.
• Aim for tomorrow: complete critical reading page- chapter 5 activity.
• Any suggestions for SATs revision? My exam is on October 11th